Youth Ministry Q & A (April) 

Featured Voices:

Derek Draper, Minister to Students at First Baptist Church Wylie, Texas

Elias Garcia, Minister with Students at First Baptist Church, San Angelo, Texas

Steve Pulley, Minister to Students at North Richland Hills Baptist Church, North Richland Hills, Texas

Topic: Graduates in Youth Ministry

How do you honor the seniors in your ministry?  

Derek:
We have a senior Sunday set aside each year to honor them.  Before the worship service, I have them fill out a postcard with some info on it, such as what they plan to do, where they see themselves in five years, etc.  During the service, we recognize the seniors that are there, have their family stand, read their postcard and present them with a gift.  The gift is usually the Congratulations CD by Interlinc and The Message remix Bible.  I have the pastor pray over them after the recognition.

I do a meal for them and their families.  The meal has been breakfast, lunch or dinner.  In the past, I had a speaker come in and challenge them.  The last few years, I have had the parents publicly bless their senior.  Parents speak words of encouragement, challenge and love to their senior in front of everyone else.  It is not a mandatory duty of the parents, but  most of them say a blessing.  I have had parents prepare their blessing by scripting it.  Some have just done it on the spur of the moment.  Others have presented their daughters with a flower.  Parents framed copy of their blessing and gave it to their senior.   This has been extremely effective with our families.  It is a powerful time.  Children forget speeches by other people, but they do not forget words of blessing spoken to them by their parent. 

During this time, we have a place set up for pictures.  We have a photographer take shots of the senior and their family.  We send these to them after the photos are developed.   

Elias:
We recognize our graduating seniors with a family breakfast and during our Sunday morning service.  At the breakfast a slide show is presented with photographs of each student from childhood through graduation, as well as trips and activities they were involved in during their time in the youth group.  Younger students in the youth ministry write, direct, and star in a skit impersonating each one of the graduates.  The skit is prepared in April and recorded to be presented at the senior breakfast as well.  The video is a wonderful opportunity for the younger students to share the impact these seniors have made in their lives.  As part of the breakfast, we also invite a former graduate of our youth ministry to return and share about their experience in college and suggestions on how to get involved in a church and other ministries while in college.

Following the breakfast, graduating seniors are recognized in the Sunday morning worship service.  The students are presented, and information about each of their future plans is shared with the congregation.  The students are each given a gift to commemorate their time in the youth ministry, and a prayer of dedication is offered as they transition from one phase of life to another. 

Steve:
We take a Sunday morning in May in which we recognize our Seniors publicly in one of our worship services.  A month or so before this day, families start the process of sending us information on their graduates.  We receive a baby picture and a senior picture, and a list of high school accomplishments and future plans.   

This stuff helps us because we tally it up and then on the Sunday of the recognition, we have each graduate and his or her parents proceed into the service from the back (shortly after it has started) while a PowerPoint presentation displays a highlight background that includes all the things listed above. 

Finally, we give them a devotional book (Chambers, My Utmost For His Highest over the past several years) and we work on tailoring the service towards making our seniors and their families feel loved.

 

Why do you think students “check out” of church after they graduate from high school?

Derek:
I think one reason is that we are raising generations of event junkies that live for the next camp, conference, retreat, disciple now, concert, etc.  The depth of their relationship with Christ is shallow.  Once they leave their addiction to events, there is not much there.  Another reason is that some are on making decisions about Christianity on their own for the first time.  Many have been spoon fed by their parents, youth workers and peers about Jesus and that is gone.  Some do not have the accountability circle they once had.  The third reason is that some stay home for college or work and the college department is not that strong.

Elias:
There are many reasons why students “check out” after graduation.  Many students travel back home on weekends.  Because of this, finding and attending a church in their college town becomes difficult.  For many students, being on their own means not having to go to church.  They have the freedom to choose whether or not they will attend.  And those who are searching for a church may have a difficult time finding one they feel comfortable attending.

I feel the main reason students “check out” is they find a sense of community in a different place.  They find a community in their dorms, face book, classes, ministry organizations, etc.  This new community takes place of the community they experienced in high school known as youth group or the church.  Many of these organizations do service projects and help others, which are similar activities that the church does.  They replace the community of church with a different community; one they feel connected to either because of interest or other reasons. 

Steve:
That’s the million dollar question.  Up until recently, I have always heard the 80% number being used in reference to the percentage of 18 year-olds that claim to be Christ-followers, and are plugged into churches and then graduate from high school as well as their faith.  It seems like many are saying it’s 85% or 90% now. 

But, I believe a number of Youth Pastors are lowering this number (as of very recently) because we are focusing on some crucial foundations that define success in youth ministry and produce teenagers that graduate high school and enter a lost world as Biblically-based, Kingdom shapers. 

I think this foundation is not predicated by high numbers on Sunday mornings and Wednesday nights. 

I feel we are recognizing that this is a generation of students that desires the spiritual, but is Biblically illiterate.  As Youth Pastors, we are realizing that our response must be to teach our students about the nature, character, and holiness of God through Jesus Christ.  Then, as we spend time with God and abide in Him, we must also consistently model as best we can who Jesus is. 

I believe that the old saying of, “Keep them busy so that they stay out of trouble” doesn’t work in the church any longer.  (It actually never worked at all – see the 80% rule.)  We have been so activities based in the past just to keep parents and Six Flags happy, that consequently, from a spiritual formation perspective we have promoted through a generation of students a mile long and an inch deep.  I’m seeing youth ministries today focus on doing a few things really well, and I think we and students are better for it. 

We have blow torched short-term mission trips that have taught kids so many things.  They have caught an “On-Mission” way of life that has led them to see that they are not to compartmentalize their faith just for seven days in Mexico or New Orleans.  Instead, teenagers are living out their faith in Christ in the class room, at the places where they work, within their families and where they hang out. 

Maybe most significantly, we are taking serious the Shema of Deuteronomy 6.  There are no greater and more significant primary disciplers than mom and dad.  Aren’t you seeing more youth ministries getting onboard and placing more emphasis yourself in teaching families how to pray together, how to talk and spend time together, and how to seek the face of God by spending time in His Word? 

These are a few but significant foundational stances we’ve made to turn the tide of disengagement after graduation.

 

What are some suggestions to ensure that your graduates get plugged into other churches after they leave your ministry? 

Derek:
I believe the main source to keeping the students plugged in is equipping parents to make spiritual impact on their child.  Equipping and encouraging the parents begins when their student enters the youth group.  Parents are a natural contact with the child when they leave the youth group. 

Another way to help the students stay plugged in to the church is to get in contact with the churches and organizations on the campuses they will attend.  I have called the churches to give them names of students going to school in their town.  I have sent names to the BSM on their college campus. 

Elias:
If a graduating senior’s experience in the student ministry was meaningful and a growing time, he or she may feel the need to stay plugged into a church beyond the high school years.  But even if this happens, it doesn’t guarantee that they will get plugged into a church once they leave the youth ministry. 

Helping students plug in after youth ministry begins when they first enter the student ministry. Youth ministry does a great job of creating community and sending students out to serve others and have fun experiences.  Beyond the student ministry, there are usually not many of these opportunities while in high school.  But once they begin college they will have many organizations and groups that can replace the church community.  Therefore, when students first enter the youth ministry they must realize that this community is a faith community.  Their faith in Christ makes all the difference from any other organization.  They must realize that the faith community known as the church is the agency that God uses to change the world, and He calls us to be part of the body using our gifts to reconcile the world to God.  If students feel that church is just a place where you sit and listen and not a place where you are sent to be kingdom people they will not feel the need to plug into a church.   

The following suggestions may be helpful in getting students plugged in once they leave the youth ministry and transition into college life:

  • Help the student find a church they know will impact them. 
  • Connect the student to Christian organizations on campus where they will meet others just like them. 
  • Plan a time to visit the campuses these students attend. 
  • Send care packages and letters just to remind them that you care. 
  • Get them connected to your college ministry before they leave for college so that they feel comfortable when they visit during holidays and summer vacation.  

Steve:
We have been proactive about informing seniors and other students in general about the 80% dropout rule.  Our intent is to motivate them (sometimes by fear but most of the time by encouragement) to view their spiritual life more as a marathon instead of a sprint.   

At our Fall Senior Retreat, we ask the question, “What are you going to do for God this year?”  Again, we talk about the 80%.  We ask, “What group will you fall into after you graduate?  Those that passionately follow Christ, or those that passionately follow the world?”   Then we end the senior year with a final retreat.  There, we celebrate the victories they had in Christ and give a final formal push towards helping them finalize a plan for continued growth after graduation.  This plan always centers around not just attending a church while in college, but investing in a small group, connecting with the rest of the church, etc. 

In addition, we’ll network with University Ministers of local churches where our students will be attending college in order to give them strong prospects and to allow those ministers to pick up where we left off.

 


 

Youth Ministry Q & A (March)

Featured Voice: Ryan Prater, Junior High Pastor of Matrix Ministries at Clear Creek Community Church, League City, Texas

Topic: Remembering and Celebrating Easter with Students

There seems to be a lack of emphasis in Christ’s journey to the cross in student ministry.  Why do you think it is this way?  How can we engage students with the whole Easter story?

I have always tried to be intentional about obvious things on the calendar (Christmas, Easter, the start up of school, etc.).  In most of these cases, society is our best friend.  They make sure through their marketing that everyone knows a few months out that Christmas is coming or that Easter is coming.  People are talking about it (at least about bunnies) and are making Easter plans.  I see it my responsibility to give them the “why” behind the holiday.  The Passion week—with the apex being the Resurrection—is the most important week our world has ever known.  Paul tells us that if there is no resurrection then our faith is useless.  That is why it is on my calendar every year.  If some student ministries are not emphasizing the story of Easter it is possibly a lack of intentionality.

With the holidays of Christmas and Easter, I like to connect the history and forgotten traditions of Christendom with today.  Talk about the torture of scourging, crucifixion, and the historicity of the Resurrection.  With some research and some creativity in presentation, you can make a familiar story come alive. 

How can youth ministers make Easter and the time leading up to Easter meaningful for students? 

One of the most meaningful things that The Matrix (Middle School Ministry at CCCC) does every year is the observation of the Passover Feast on Maundy Thursday.  Jerry and I instituted it when we were a tandem at Pioneer Drive, and I have carried on with me here at Clear Creek Community Church.  We often partake in the Lord’s Supper, but few of us know about the meal and its ritual that gives the Lord’s Supper its context.  It was a meal observed by the Jewish family.  The meal itself told the story of the Jews—mainly their slavery and exodus out of Egypt.  The climax was the eating of the Paschal lamb.  It’s a meal that takes about an hour and a half to complete.  It is a sensory overload of tastes and smells and touch that we are not used to.  But as Christians, our story is woven throughout this meal.  Our heritage comes from the Jews.  So that part of the story should resonate with us.  But we see how through the meal Jesus puts the pieces of the puzzle together.  Jesus is our lamb, the bitter herbs can remind us of our past slaver to sin, etc.  And the end of the meal is where the Jews would wait (and still do to this day) for the second coming of Elijah.  Jesus said that John the dipper was the second coming of Elijah.  It is amazing.  For our students it helps connect even more their heritage from the Bible today.  It will make the subsequent Lords’ Supper observations you do mean that much more as well. 

What are some creative ways, practices, and Easter observances that we can incorporate into our youth ministries? 

  1. Maundy Thursday observation.
  2. Stations of the cross/prayer labyrinth.
  3. Sunrise service on Easter.
  4. Good Friday service.  Jerry and I had this idea of having a service on Good Friday.  In order for there to be a celebration of a resurrection, there first has to be a death.  For us to really appreciate and live in the resurrected life, we first must go through a death.  Paul says that we must die to ourselves.  The idea was to structure the service to where at the end, it was very solemn and dark and you basically “died” to yourself.  No fanfare or show.  Kind of a quasi-funeral.  Sunday would be the celebration of your new-found resurrected life in Christ. 

How have your students responded to these? 

Our students love the Passover Feast.  They ask for it every year.  They walk away saying, “I never knew that is what happened.”  It gives them a deeper appreciation for the Lord’s Supper part of the Feast and for what Jesus has done for us.

Is there any value to returning to Christian tradition in order to better understand the Easter story?  Why?

Most traditions (if not all) that are worth anything started off with purpose.  It’s when we forget about the original purpose and do them for the sake of “Well, we have always done it” that they become a sacred cow.  I think it is worth looking at the traditions that Christendom has passed down throughout the years and asking “Why did they do it?  What were they trying to teach us?”  I think that when we can see how we fit into the bigger story it is incredible.  When we can connect ourselves to people hundreds of years ago who did the same thing, there is power in that. 

What are some things we can give students for personal reflection as Easter draws closer? 

I hope that we can give students ownership of their faith.  If we/they miss the Resurrection and how that reality is to impact our lives forever, we’ve missed everything.  Jim Collins begins the book Good to Great with a poignant line that I cannot get out of my head: “Good is the enemy of great.”  I sense that our culture as a whole is satisfied with our students being “good kids.”  Usually the qualifier for good is that they get good grades, come to church, volunteer some, stay out of trouble (for the most part), etc.  Though these are upstanding qualities, there is more to it.  I want students to be great.  (When I say great I am thinking “godly.”) 

The resurrected life is the greatest challenge that any of us will face.  To leave the old life to “take up our crosses daily and follow” Jesus is a tremendous command.  The fact that Jesus was resurrected makes everything else that He said true as well.  And if true, then I must be obedient to all that God says in all areas of my life.  I cannot settle for “good” but must see it as the enemy to truly becoming great—the follower I am supposed to be. 

If our students could be challenged and brought along the process of owning their faith and living the resurrected life, we would see the moral climate of our schools and culture slowly change.  The next line in the book is equally compelling: “That is one of the key reasons why we have so little that becomes great.”  Chew on that for a bit. 

 
Youth Ministry Q & A (February)

Featured Voice: Jimmy Smith, Minister to Students, FBC Allen Texas

Topic: Disciple Now Follow Up

Disciple Now is one of the biggest events on a youth minister’s calendar each year, yet follow-up with students and parents is one of the things we do a poorly.  Why is it this way?

We don’t plan for it.  We’ll work for months getting ready for the weekend but we rarely give any thought or attention to “after the event”.  The sad thing is, that means we’re giving little attention to one of the most important elements of the weekend.  Follow up helps students solidify their commitments.  They become less about emotion and more about determination.

How can we ensure that this is not a regular occurrence?

As I mentioned earlier, we just need to plan it.  Develop strategies and materials that will help the students take their next steps.  It will take more time but without it then it’s just good event that doesn’t produce lasting change.

When you have a number of students who make decisions (about salvation, rededication, or surrender to ministry) during Disciple Now weekend, what are some of the next steps you take to follow-up with them?

I always make contact with them…letters, emails and personal visits.  I try to help them develop a strategy to continue on the new journey they started during DNOW.  We also pass on their names and commitments to their small group leaders (in our case, Sunday School teacher) so they can follow up as well.  It’s important that their small group leaders know so they can be aware during their teaching times and communication with the students.

How do you inform the entire congregation of all the decisions made over the weekend?

We encourage our students to “go public” with their decisions.  Going up front can be intimidating for a student but it provides some tremendous accountability for a student to know that his/her church will be praying for them.  Part of DNOW experience is a celebration time with the church where our students get to share a part of their DNOW experience.  It’s important that the church see the fruit of DiscipleNow.  We try, as much as possible, to make the DNOW experience a church-wide experience.

Each Disciple Now weekend has students who are new to your church.  How do you follow-up with those students?  How do you incorporate them into your youth ministry?  

One of the things we ask for when a student registers is where they normally attend church.  If they are regular attenders at another church then we thank them for their participation, help them to know we are here for them, and encourage them to continue to remain involved in their youth ministries.  For students who do not have a church home we encourage them to get involved in a small group Bible study (Sunday School).  We have Bible study leaders contact them and follow up with them.  We send them material about our student ministry and let them know they have a place in our ministry.

From leaders, to host homes, to cooks, to drivers and so on, there are so many people who are involved in Disciple Now.  What are some creative ways to thank them for their commitment to investing in the lives of teenagers?

I’m pretty simple with this one…I thank them publicly any chance I get.  I want the church to know that DNOW would not happen if it were not for their sacrifice and hard work.  I especially am grateful for our host homes.  One way I try to take care of our host homes is by not slamming them with 20 kids in their home during DNOW.  I’ve done that before and it’s not always a good thing.  My goal is 10 to 12 student per home.  That’s a good manageable group.  Anything I can do to help make their DNOW weekend as smooth and easy as possible.  Plus, let’s be honest, you need them again next year!

How do you bring closure to your Disciple Now and youth ministry?

We don’t really try to bring closure…we want to build on what was started.  We work hard to try to address things that came from the weekend and keep pushing the things that God got rolling in our ministry.  We may not say “DNOW” much after the weekend but it’s woven throughout all we do.